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Love, life, and kittens

Published Friday, April 21, 2006 by Chicky | E-mail this post

Okay, I've just seen in a few places people talking about their lack of love-lives, and these people are college-age and young. So people, here's some advice posted in the comments section of a blog. One from someone else, the second one by me:

"You guys are 18 years old! Not time to be worrying that you're an old maid and won't find a guy to have kids with! ... And I doubt that most guys are into thinking about those things at this time either. I say, just be aware that you're interested in finding someone (so you don't miss it when it comes!) but have your main focus on having fun, because that is SO much more attractive than the "trying-to-fill-a-void" point of view about life. That's what I have faith in."

"Guys, enjoy the single-life, and don't worry about finding "Mr. Right." Sure, dating can be fun, and so can relationships, but you've got about 60+ more years of life (avg for women is in the 70s), so you've got a TON of time to find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. You don't need a man to fill a void in your life. You need to be whole on your own first before you can be with someone else. ------'s right; being someone who wants to just have fun is WAY more attractive than someone who feels they need someone to complete them. Take this as advice from a person who's been single for months now and loving it. :)"

And my favorite advice by yours truly:

"PS. You don't technically really need a man to have kids. Two ideas: Modern Science and Adoption.

Or get a kitten."

Yeah, so my basic point is, what's the hurry? There's so much time in our lives, why do we have to worry about looking around for someone to "complete us?" No one can complete us except ourselves. If you're not happy being a single person, you're not going to be happy being in a relationship. Yes, there will be times you may feel lonely because you know people who are in a relationship, it's unavoidable. But don't think being in one is going to change that. You can feel lonely in a relationship you know.

Now, I'm not saying that dating or being in a relationship is dumb, or that I'm against those who are in one right now. I'm completely open for dating or being in a relationship, and I say kudos to those who are able to be in one and be happy. However, if it doesn't happen to me anytime soon, so be it. I'm happy just being by myself. I've got friends, hobbies, college, and preparing for a career, all of which keeps me busy and satisfied. If a guy asks me out tomorrow, cool. If not, I'm not going to stress about it, but just keep on doing what I do best; being myself and being happy.

Love,
Chicky (who wants a kitten, but has a lovely beta fish and an adorable doggy instead.)